Index

accessibility, xi, 11–12

adaptability, 107–12

agency, 70–72, 74, 79n31

Avery, Isaac, 10n11

Avery, Thomas Lenoir, 10n11

baseball, 75

beach, 108–9

boar, 109–10

breadwinner role, 2, 5–7

busyness, x, 12, 62, 63, 83. See also time famine

cabbage, 97

Caesar (boar), 109–10

calling(s)

balancing family and, 16–17, 84–85

of fathers, 31n19

camping, 86

car accident, 60n30

cards, 71

carriage, Lawrence removed from, 73, 75

children. See also discipline; relationships, building

being tuned in to, 48–49, 95

connecting with, 93–94

David O. McKay as father figure to, 26–29, 34n56, 57–58

entitlements of, 45n12, 105n5

importance of, 89–90n10

James E. Faust on raising, 78n2

nurturing, 47–48

pride in development of, 103–4, 106n30

respect of, for parents, 58n2

value of, 33n55

Christmas

dinner, 46n35

Christmas shopping, 75–76

Church trips, 13–14, 20–21, 23, 84–85. See also world tour

colonial father, 1–2

commitment, 11–13

of David O. McKay to youth, 26–29

to family, 19–21

in marriage, 13–15

consecration, 81–82, 87

cow, 110

creativity, 35–44

death, 49–51

dining area, 37

discipline, 61–64

balanced between mother and father, 75–78

and building relationships, 108–9

and communicating expectations, 68–69

doctrine of, 64–66

and freedom within limits, 74

and repeating commands, 72–74

teaching agency through, 70–72

teaching obedience through, 69–70

through father, 1–2

through parental example, 66–68

distractions, 83

divorce, 9n5, 10n16

Dry Hollow Farm

David Lawrence leaves, 54–55

teaching responsibility on, 109–10

trips to, 85–86

work on, 40–42, 87

education

of Aaron W. Tracy, 26–27

discipline as, 65–66

through example, 67–69

through father, 1–2

through letters, 55–56

emulation. See example(s)

entertainment, 38–39, 110–11

example(s)

of Jesus Christ, xiii, 113, 114

lack of fathering, xii–xiv

serving as, 66–69, 80n37, 96–97

expectations

communicating, 68–69

for McKay children, 71–72, 80n37, 114

family

David O. McKay desires to be with, 21–24, 33n49, 33n52, 88

David O. McKay’s commitment to, 19–21

David O. McKay’s concern for, 48–49

Great Depression’s effect on, 6

importance of, 62–63

as priority, 11–13, 15–18, 114–15

World War II’s effect on, 7–8

farm. See Dry Hollow Farm

fatherhood

in 1700s, 1–2

in 1800s, 2–3

in 1900s, 3–5

from 1900 to 1930s, 5–7

from 1930s to 1950s, 7–9

fathering crisis, ix–x

dearth of role models, xiii–xiv

father irrelevance, x–xi

time famine, xi–xii

fatherlessness, ix–x, 5–6, 8, 10n20

fathers

calling of, 31n19

child custody given to, 9n5

irrelevance of, x–xi

role models for, xiii–xiv

spiritually or emotionally absent, xv n8, 3

flagpole, at top of Mount Ogden, 24–26

flash floods, 53–54

flexibility, 107–12

floods, 53–54

freedom, within limits, 74, 79n31

fun, 38–39, 110–11

gathering place, 37

generativity, 27

grandchildren, 39, 42–44, 46n35, 73–74

Great Depression, 6

Hafen, Bruce C., 61–62

Hafen, Marie, 61–62

happiness, 70, 97

Heavenly Father, 47

Holy Ghost, sensitivity to, 101–3

home

creating, for grandchildren, 42–44, 46n35

environment of, 36–37, 38, 44n5, 45n11

importance of, 35

love in, 35, 53

as priority, 114–15

teaching gospel in, 67–69, 103

teaching obedience in, 66, 70, 74, 77

homesickness, 20, 23, 33n49, 51–53, 95–96, 99–101

humor, 97–98

individualism, 4

industrialization, 2–3

integrity, 27–28

Jesus Christ

as fathering role model, xiii

following example of, 113, 114

Personal Priesthood Interview with, 28–29

letters, counsel for children in, 55–56

lettuce, 97

limits, freedom within, 74, 79n31

Literary Digest, 77

love

of and for children, 4–5, 53–55, 57–58, 60n26, 68, 93–94, 104

between David O. and Emma Ray McKay, 13–14

discipline and, 64, 65

in home, 35, 53

shown through material goods, xi

shown through time, 83–84, 104

lying, 70

magazine subscriptions, 77

marriage

during 1700s and 1800s, 10n7

commitment in, 13–15

and disciplining children, 76–77

as priority, 28

masculinity, redefinition of, 3–4, 5–6

matches, 70

materialism, xi

Maxwell, Neal A., 43–44

McKay, David Lawrence

accompanies father on Church trips, 84–85

cancels Christmas shopping, 75–76

correspondence with, 55–56, 59–60n25, 99

David O. McKay follows prompting regarding, 102

David O. McKay spends time with, in France, 103–4

gets permission for magazine subscription, 77

illness of, 49

joke at expense of, 97

love for, 53–55

removed from surrey, 73, 75

stories told to, 38

taught responsibility on farm, 109–10

violin for, 40

watches ocean, 108–9

McKay, David O.

ability of, to handle many things at once, 34n64

ancestors and descendants of, vi–vii

busy schedule of, 17–18

as father figure to all children, 26–29, 34n56, 57–58

as fathering role model, xiii–xiv

Llewelyn visits, in hospital, 60n30

marriage of, 13–15

self-discipline of, 68

McKay, Edward (Ned), 41, 70, 95

McKay, Emma Rae (daughter), 40, 71, 95

McKay, Emma Ray (wife)

and balancing family, 16

correspondence with, 96, 98–99

and disciplining children, 75, 76–77

encourages setting example, 80n37

marriage of, 13–16

responsibilities of, 18–19

self-discipline of, 68

McKay, Llewelyn

accompanies father on Church trips, 84, 85

arrives late, 73

correspondence with, 99

places flagpole on Mount Ogden, 24–26

playing cards of, 71

poem for, 99–101

receives severe reprimand, 75

visits father in hospital, 60n30

McKay, Lou Jean, 18, 38, 40, 52–53, 98

McKay, Robert (Bobby), 4–5, 41

McKay, Royle, 49–51, 59n16

media

portrayal of fathers in, xiii

time spent consuming, 11–12

memories, making, 38–39

monkeys, 74

Mount Ogden, placing flagpole at top of, 24–26

movies, 110–11

music, 40

neglect, paternal, 3

nurturing fathers, 47–58

Oaks, Dallin H., 43–44

obedience, 64, 69–70

ocean, 108–9

one-on-one relationships, 98–99

one-on-one time, 81–82

overscheduling, 12, 62, 63

Packer, Boyd K., 24

paternal neglect, 3

Personal Priesthood Interview, 28–29

piano, 73–74

playing cards, 71

plays, 38

poetry, 39–40, 99–101

praise, 75–76

priority/priorities

children as, 33n55, 81–82

family as, 11–13, 15–18, 114–15

of fathers, 28–29

promises, keeping, 27–28

Puritan father, 1–2

quality time, 82

reading, 38

recreation, 38, 110–11

relationships, building, 93–94

adaptability in, 110–11

and foregoing chastisement, 108–9

one-on-one, 98–99

and spiritual connectedness, 101–3

through example, 96–97

through humor, 97–98

through poetry, 99–101

relaxation, 37

repetition, 72–74

responsibility, teaching, 75, 109–10

role models. See example(s)

Sabbath, 71

sacrifice, 81–82, 88–89

salvation, work as element of, 90n26

self-control, 74

sickness, 49–51, 95

sixth sense, 95

sleigh riding, 38–39

spiritual connectedness, 101–3

stake conference assignments, 84–85

Sunday School, 71

surrey, Lawrence removed from, 73, 75

television

portrayal of fathers on, xiii

time spent watching, 11

theater, 38

time

for children, 81–86, 88–89

discipline and, 63

love shown through, 83–84, 104

prioritizing, for family, 12–13, 17–18, 81–82

time famine, xi–xii, xvi n14, xvi n18

Tracy, Aaron W., 26–27

urbanization, 2–3

vacations, xvi n14, 81–82, 111

video games, 12

violin, 40

window, broken, 75

women

changing role of, 3

role of colonial, 2

work

David O. McKay as example of, 87

as element of salvation, 90n26

and father irrelevance, x–xi

opportunities for, 40–42

and time famine, xi–xii, xvi n18

world tour, 22–23, 33n49, 33n52, 51–53, 95–96

World War II, 7–8

Youth’s Companion, 77