Frank F. Judd Jr., “Eli and His Sons: Some Lessons for Parents,” Religious Educator 2, no. 2 (2001): 47–51.
Frank F. Judd Jr. was Instructor of Ancient Scripture at BYU when this was published.
The prophet Nephi stated, “I did liken all scriptures unto us, that it might be for our profit and learning” (1 Nephi 19:23). Numerous stories in the scriptures illustrate how parents have tried, either successfully or unsuccessfully, to teach their children to keep the commandments of God. Thankfully, we can learn important lessons from both types of examples.
One such instructive story is that of Eli and his two sons, Hophni and Phinehas. Before Solomon built a permanent temple at Jerusalem, the portable tabernacle was located at Shiloh, a city north of Jerusalem. Eli was the priest (probably the high priest) over the tabernacle at Shiloh (1 Samuel 1:9, 2:11) as well as a judge in Israel (1 Samuel 4:18). By this time, Eli was ninety-eight years old (1 Samuel 4:15).
One day Hannah was at the tabernacle earnestly pleading with the Lord to bless her with a son and promising to dedicate her future child to the service of the Lord. When Eli observed Hannah, he was inspired to declare to her, “Go in peace: and the God of Israel grant thee thy petition that thou hast asked of him” (1 Samuel 1:17). Later, after she gave birth to a son, Hannah brought the young Samuel to Eli to fulfill her vow (1 Samuel 1:24–28). Under the supervision of Eli, Samuel faithfully served at the tabernacle (1 Samuel 2:11).
Unfortunately, Eli’s own sons did not submit to their father’s supervision as Samuel did. Like their father, Hophni and Phinehas were also priests at the tabernacle (1 Samuel 1:3). The sons of Eli “knew not the Lord” (1 Samuel 2:12). They are referred to as “sons of Belial” (1 Samuel 2:12), which is a term of derision used elsewhere in the scriptures. The word Belial basically means “wickedness” or “worthlessness.”
The sons of Eli earned their bad reputation. For the priests to obtain their rightful portions of the sacrifices, it was customary at the tabernacle at Shiloh for the priest’s servant to thrust a large fork into the pot in which the sacrificial animal was cooking and to give the priest whatever portion of boiled meat the fork happened to bring up (1 Samuel 2:13–14). However, the sons of Eli wanted roasted meat instead of boiled meat; so Hophni and Phinehas compelled the priest’s servant to extort the best portions of meat from the person presenting the sacrifice before the fat was burned and before the meat was boiled (1 Samuel 2:15–16).
According to the law of Moses, the fat was not to be eaten but was to be burned as the Lord’s portion of the sacrifice. If the one who was presenting the sacrifice refused to hand over the desired portions of meat before the fat was burned, the sons of Eli compelled the priest’s servant to take the meat by force (1 Samuel 2:16). In addition to extortion, the sons of Eli were also guilty of sexual immorality with the women who gathered at the entrance to the tabernacle (1 Samuel 2:22). Naturally, the Lord was very displeased with this sinful behavior (1 Samuel 2:17).
When Eli heard what his sons were doing, he was very concerned. He chastised his unruly sons by saying, “Ye make the Lord’s people to transgress” (1 Samuel 2:24). By forcing those who presented sacrifices to relinquish the meat before burning the fat, the sons of Eli were causing them to break the law of Moses. Alma’s strong words to his wayward son Corianton, who had committed fornication with the harlot Isabel, reflect a similar situation and reaction: “Behold, O my son, how great iniquity ye brought upon the Zoramites; for when they saw your conduct they would not believe in my words” (Alma 39:11). Poor examples can have lasting effects.
As priests, Hophni and Phinehas were consecrated to be holy representatives and upstanding teachers; in a sense, they belonged to the Lord. Eli instructed his sons that they did not merely “sin against another” person but rather they did “sin against the Lord” (1 Samuel 2:25). In an analogous situation in the New Testament, Ananias and Sapphira had covenanted with the Lord to sell their possessions, giving all the proceeds to the Church as part of their living the law of consecration. However, as the Apostle Peter told them, by keeping back a portion of their money and breaking their covenant, Ananias and Sapphira had “not lied unto men, but unto God” (Acts 5:4). Covenant breaking threatens our relationship not only with others but also, more importantly, with Heavenly Father.
After the sins of Hophni and Phinehas, a man of God delivered the message to Eli in the name of the Lord that Eli was guilty of honoring his sons more than the Lord (1 Samuel 2:27–30). Although Eli chastised Hophni and Phinehas, he apparently had not done everything he could to correct their bad behavior. Eli was guilty of neglecting his parental duties toward his sons because “he restrained them not” (1 Samuel 3:13). As a result of Eli’s neglect, the Lord said that Eli and his house would be cut off from His favor and that, as a sign of the truth of the Lord’s words, both sons would die on the same day (1 Samuel 2:30–34).
Parenting is a serious responsibility that carries grave consequences for neglecting responsibility. The Lord has declared in the latter days that “inasmuch as parents have children in Zion, or in any of her stakes which are organized, that teach them not to understand the doctrine of repentance, faith in Christ the Son of the living God, and of baptism and the gift of the Holy Ghost by the laying on of the hands, when eight years old, the sin be upon the heads of the parents” (D&C 68:25).
After the Israelites went out to fight against the Philistines and lost a battle, the sons of
Eli accompanied the ark of the covenant to the battlefront because the Israelites hoped the ark would provide some divine protection (1 Samuel 4:1–5). The Philistines were initially afraid when they realized that the Israelite army had the ark with them but then took courage and defeated the Israelites (1 Samuel 4:6–10). The result was that “the ark of God was taken; and the two sons of Eli, Hophni and Phinehas, were slain” (1 Samuel 4:11).
Meanwhile, Eli nervously waited at Shiloh for the safe return of the ark (1 Samuel 4:13), only to be greeted with the tragic news that “thy two sons also, Hophni and Phinehas, are dead, and the ark of God is taken” (1 Samuel 4:17). As a sad conclusion to this story, when Eli heard that the ark was captured, he fell backwards off his seat, broke his neck, and died (1 Samuel 4:18).
There are several lessons to be learned from the experiences of Eli and his sons. As a priest of the Lord, Eli successfully supervised Samuel at the tabernacle but was not as diligent as he could have been toward his own sons. In a similar fashion, although many endeavors may be worthy of our time and attention, we ought not to neglect our responsibility toward our family because of our devotion to other activities. The First Presidency recently stated, “We counsel parents and children to give highest priority to family prayer, family home evening, gospel study and instruction, and wholesome family activities. However worthy and appropriate other demands or activities may be, they must not be permitted to displace the divinely-appointed duties that only parents and families can adequately perform.” As President David O. McKay taught, “No other success can compensate for failure in the home.” We must learn by the Spirit how to strike the proper balance between family and other responsibilities.
Further, we should not assume that parents are culpable for the poor conduct of their children. Many righteous parents earnestly strive to teach their children from their youth the principles of the gospel, yet their children still go astray. At the same time, however, we must not downplay the crucial responsibility of parents to instruct their children. President Gordon B. Hinckley has given the following counsel:
I recognize that there are parents who, notwithstanding an outpouring of love and a diligent and faithful effort to teach them, see their children grow in a contrary manner and weep while their wayward sons and daughters willfully pursue courses of tragic consequence. For such I have great sympathy, and to them I am wont to quote the words of Ezekiel: “The son shall not bear the iniquity of the father, neither shall the father bear the iniquity of the son” (Ezekiel 18:20).
But such is the exception rather than the rule. Nor does the exception justify others of us from making every effort in showing forth love, example, and correct precept in the rearing of those for whom God has given us sacred responsibility.”
Finally, we understand that the family unit is at the heart of the gospel of Jesus Christ. In the inspired declaration “The Family: A Proclamation to the World,” the First Presidency and the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles solemnly affirmed, “Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness, to provide for their physical and spiritual needs, to teach them to love and serve one another, to observe the commandments of God and to be law-abiding citizens wherever they live. Husbands and wives—mothers and fathers—will be held accountable before God for the discharge of these obligations.”
The story of Eli and his sons reminds us of the serious responsibility parents have to teach their children the principles of the gospel of Jesus Christ and the heartbreaking consequences that can result if parents neglect this sacred obligation.
 For an excellent summary of what the scriptures say about parenting, see Robert J. Matthews, “What the Scriptures Say about Rearing Children,” Ensign 2, no. 12 (December 1972): 34–35.
 See Bible Dictionary, 663, and Ronald Youngblood, “Eli,” in The Anchor Bible Dictionary (New York: Doubleday, 1992), 2:456.
 The term “Belial” is also used to describe those who practice and/
 Francis Brown, S. R. Driver, and Charles A. Briggs, A Hebrew and English Lexicon of the Old Testament(Oxford: Clarendon Press, 1951), 116. See also Bible Dictionary, 620.
 See Leviticus 7:22–25 and 17:6.
 Compare further the poor examples of Nephite husbands and fathers during the time of Jacob (Jacob 2:35, 3:10) and of Church members during the time of Alma the Younger (Alma 4:11).
 Priests were “called of God” (Hebrews 5:1–4). As representatives of the people and of the Lord, they were anointed, consecrated, and sanctified (Exodus 28:41; 29:33, 44) to offer sacrifices at the temple (Numbers 18:1–7; Deuteronomy 18:1–5) and to teach the children of Israel (Leviticus 10:11; Deuteronomy 33:10). As “holy” and “chosen” servants, they were the Lord’s—or “his” (Numbers 16:5). See also Bible Dictionary, 753–54.
 See also D&C 93:40–44; Jacob 2:35, 3:10.
 Circular letter from the Office of the First Presidency of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, 11 February 1999. See also 1 Timothy 3:4–5.
 David O. McKay in Conference Report, 4 April 1964, 5. See also Neal A. Maxwell,A More Excellent Way”: Essays on Leadership for Latter-day Saints(Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1967), 95.
 Gordon B. Hinckley, “Behold, Your Little Ones,” Ensign 8, no. 11 (November 1978): 19. See also Mosiah 4:14–15.
 “The Family: A Proclamation to the World,” Ensign 25, no. 11 (November 1995):102. See also Gordon B. Hinckley, “Stand Strong against the Wiles of the World,” Ensign 25, no.11 (November 1995): 101.
 Helpful ideas and suggestions for parents are available at the Church’s official website (www.lds.org) through the link of “Family Resources.”